I've been set up with a few gentlemen recently and all the different people in my life have something they generally are looking for to gauge whether or not they are worthy.
From opening and closing my doors, driving to meet me, introducing themselves to the family, and so many more I'm sure I'm not thinking of right now.
I've waited for the right guy for so long and my mother has always talked about the amazing person God was going to bring me because I've given myself to Him first and foremost and I've left the choice up to him, that high expectations have arisen. Others just say I'm too trusting, innocent/naive, sweet (and thanks btw), or that I get attached too easily to be left to myself. I guess for whatever reason I need to be protected.
The biggest person who has stepped up on this honestly is one of my brother-in-laws. I have always considered him like a big brother, but through this process he has been the hardest to get to like anyone. He's very picky and even has to approve of what I wear...but as annoying as this can be, it's nice to know I'm so loved.
I sort of feel like one of those princesses in a tower, with all the different obstacles hindering princes everywhere from even wanting to attempt to rescue me. I'm just not worth the trouble to most.
So will there ever be a prince that will find me worth the fight? Is there really a Prince Charming in my future? Sometimes its not about how cute, strong, or charming you can be but about the heart and passion.
I'm a virgin of 28 years and going, and there have been many times along the path that I've thought of giving up on him...throwing in the towel to the whole idea and just start saving my money for cats, but my faith and family have helped me to stay strong.
The fear of the wicked, it shall come upon him: but the desire of the righteous shall be granted.
Proverbs 10:24. KJV
He is out there and he will come, one day.
On a side note, here are some tips for anyone thinking of trying to be a girls prince charming, at least for a girl like myself.
- Don't brag about women at the bar who wanted you or were hitting on you, especially if they were married
- Don't try to talk to me about what you are NOT wearing while we are on the phone, I am not impressed.
- Open doors, be a gentlemen
- Come to my house and pick me up on the first date, don't make me drive a gazillion miles cause you don't feel like driving them.
- Text or call on your own. Don't make me always have to contact you first. This applies to friendships as well as dating, they work both ways. I've lost a good friend just by waiting for her to contact me.
- Be yourself